What's a good Middle Way here? Kid actually building the machine all by himself -- 100% yes, even if it's quite expensive; kid then Counter Striking, Call of Dutying etc for hours on dat 27" screen -- ugh!
What complicates things is that I myself am more of a "computational minimalist" using 15 year old machines in a cli-only environment etc. I've tried to show him That Path also ("dude, here's some Turbo Pascal for ya!"), but, well, obviously he's preferring those addictively engineered and GPU-hungry multiplayer games with his friends any day.
He's a good kid all in all, actively engaged in competitive rowing, with good grades etc. Plays chess also (but all the other folks are FPSing or Minecrafting, so there's that).
Being a gamer (and using ridiculously overpowered hardware) may well be just a stage of a teen's life, possibly even necessary to go through in order to understand that you don't really "need" all of this in you adult life. I do feel, however, that the fear of growing a computer gaming vegetable out of one's Good Kid is a little more than just overprotective dad syndrome these days. (I'm afraid the gaming industry mostly wins. And, with real-world war going on in Ukraine, I fooking can't stand watching him actually using those ultra-realistic knives or pump action guns for, well, killing "terrorists" as a recreational activity...)
Those of you facing (or having faced) a similar situation, what have you done? Thanks!
It’s quite a leap to assume he’ll become an addict. There are many possible scenarios, including that he’ll grow out of it in a few years. Perhaps see how it goes and step in if you feel his usage is unhealthy? It’s probably a good idea to put limits on screen time anyway, with or without video games.
If he's actually passionate about rowing, it's unlikely he's going to drop it to play video games all day. If he does, then its only a matter of time until he finds his true passions. I was a real gaming vegetable for years until I discovered some outdoor activities I actually enjoyed. I mostly rock climb now, though I still enjoy playing games.
> And, with real-world war going on in Ukraine, I can't stand watching him actually using those ultra-realistic knives or pump action guns for, well, killing "terrorists" as a recreational activity.
I can't blame you on that one, but for what its worth, I played plenty of violent video games and I've always been a staunch pacifist. If he can't separate games from reality, there's a larger issue at hand.